My son recognized the issue with this last relationship before I did. I don't remember how much I said about this man's brother, but since I told my son that the two of them were together the day after our last date, my son figured they talked. And I did get the sense from this person that his brother was somewhat controlling, so I am fairly certain that, as my son mentioned, the brother talked the guy I was with out of the relationship.
My best friend is constantly giving me conflicting advice. She tells me not to get involved with someone else, because she is concerned I will end up in another bad relationship, but at the same time, wonders why I am not with someone. Sorry - I can't be in both of these situations simultaneously!
I can say for my friend that she has no idea what is it like to date at my age. She has been married 25 years; she hasn't dated for at least 30 years (maybe more; I think she dated her husband for 8 years.) She tells me to stay away from dating sites, but does not realize there are not many ways to meet single men at this age (I avoid the bar scene like the plague; dating sites may not be perfect, but they are better than bars. Not by much, but at least slightly better.)
I wonder what advice my last date's brother gave him about me. If they talked about the fact that I wasn't exactly excited about guns, I am guessing he labeled me with one of those new, inflammatory labels reserved for people you don't know who have opinions you assume are different than your own. I am betting he told my guy he was better off without me and that there was someone better out there. And that might be true. I am not certain I would be happy in a relationship where the brother had the last word on everything.
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