In that last relationship, before it went up in flames, I had mentioned to this guy that there had been another man interested in me at the same time that this guy was contacting me. I told him the other guy was "nice" but I said it in a way that made nice sound, well, not so nice. In retrospect, I think I did it that way to make this guy feel better (I think I said, "he was too nice for me" which inferred that nice was boring.)
Earlier this week, after it was clear the other guy was gone and not coming back, I contacted Mr. Nice Guy, apologized for everything, and asked if he was still interested. He told me he appreciated the apology, but it was not necessary, as he understood how relationships can come and go. And then he said the best thing - not only did he say yes (he was still interested), he told me he "kept the door open." And we have been talking non-stop ever since.
So, maybe the lesson here is that nice is not so bad. In fact, nice is good - it is probably what I need, even when I don't think I do. I feel I am in a better place. Nice is...nice.
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