Why They Ghost

I learned a new dating term: ghosting. It means disappearing from a relationship. I had that happen to me this winter; in fact, I now refer to the person as "Mr.Ghoster."

It was difficult for me to understand why this happened. I mean, I know I did the same thing when I was in my teens, but since have learned to at least talk to someone and tell them why it isn't working out. Ghosting, to me, seemed immature.

But this article, The Intimacy Bait and Switch, made sense for me. In these situations, the person seemed very interested in me, and we did share a great amount of information right off the bat (I mean in the first few dates, which is unlike the relationship I am currently in where information is shared at a nice, steady pace.) And, like this article noted, when the other person started disappearing, I did feel as if they thought I was needy suddenly, although it was never specifically mentioned (it's hard to actually hear ghosts speak.)

So, this was a learning lesson for me. And while I honestly don't bear any bad feelings for the person, I am thankful for this lesson. Knowing what was happening gives me some closure, and it makes me feel as if I am growing as I move on.