A Beautiful Day

I got to spend an absolutely beautiful day with my best friend in some of the finest weather this area has to offer in the summer. My friend and I have known each other since we were in our early teens, and have managed to remain friends in spite of the fact that I remained physically and emotionally distant for the 14 years or so that I was in my first marriage, and in spite of the fact that she has run into issues later in life, and so on.

After a day spent visiting the farmer's market, a local art festival, and then our favorite new store, we sat on my balcony, enjoyed a glass of very nice wine, and talked. And one of the things that came up in our discussion was how life, sometimes, sucked.

Yes, life sucks I told her. I did mention earlier that I was happy that I could now be a bit choosey about where I lived and worked, and that had to do with spending years slogging through fiscal insolvency due to the fact that I decided to complete my degree at approximately the same time that my husband left me, etc. And, yes, my life sucked for a while, but it seemed to be turning around.

The suckage of life seemed to be a big part of the conversation. Our partners may disappoint, and our parents may be emotionally needy when we would most like to finally have things be easy. I understand that. I also understand that sometimes life, well, sucks, and we deal with it.

And realizing that, I realized true suckage in terms my father's life. My father had to go to Europe and kill people his age who could easily have been distant relatives. Oh, yes, and then come back to the states, and work, and raise a family, and pretend like that part of his life never happened. So, yes, that sucks. And, I realize it sucks more than having to deal with a son who might not have his life plan all together, or dealing with a husband who might not have it all together, or dealing with the fact that you don't have a husband or "significant other" in your life.

It's life. And you deal with it. And yes, yes, it's not perfect, and yes, it sometimes sucks. Such is life.