When it comes to relationships, I've never thought of myself as one of those checklist kind of women, although I will admit there are a few things I know I want (and a few I know I don't want – in fact a friend of mine just recently told me that I seem very certain about what I don't want in a partner/relationship.) There are three things which are key with me: respect, honesty/good moral sense and a sense of humor. In other words, I cannot be with someone who doesn't respect me for who I am, who cannot be honest and who can't laugh at life in general.
I have found someone with those qualities and more, and I couldn't be happier. And, as I said, I think I found him because I wasn't going out looking with this specific list, which I think is the problem with too many people (men and women) who cannot find someone and cannot understand why. Specificity is nice and in certain situations it serves its purpose well, but I think that by keeping your expectations to two or three primary elements, you open yourself up to the wonder of discovery about everything else this person has to offer rather than discounting them because they don't match up perfectly to your list.
And I am enjoying the wonder of discovery every day. Rather than planning the destination point and being impatient upon not being there, I am just sitting back and loving the journey.
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